Man Up: Cracking the Code of Modern Manhood

Inspired by the award-winning poet and actor’s acclaimed one-man play, a powerful coming-of-age memoir that redefines masculinity for the twenty-first-century male. 

Award-winning poet, actor, and writer Carlos Andrés Gómez is a supremely gifted storyteller with a captivating voice whose power resonates equally on the live stage and on the page. In one of his most moving spoken-word poems, Gómez recounts a confrontation he once had after accidentally bumping into another man at a club. Just as they were about to fight, Gómez experienced an unexplainable surge of emotion that made his eyes well up with tears. Everyone at the scene jumped back, as if crying, or showing vulnerability, was the most insane thing that Gómez could possibly have done.

Like many men in our society, Gómez grew up believing that he had to be ready to fight at all times, treat women as objects, and close off his emotional self. It wasn’t until he discovered acting that he began to see the true cost of squelching one’s emotions—and how aggression dominates everything that young males are taught.

Statistics on graduation rates, employment, and teen and young-adult suicide make it clear that the young males in our society are at a crisis point, but Gómez seeks to reverse these ominous trends by sharing the lessons that he has learned. Like Hill Harper’s Letters to a Young BrotherMan Up will be an agent for positive change, galvanizing men—but also mothers, girlfriends, wives, and sisters—to rethink and redefine the way all men interact with women, deal with violence, handle fear, and express emotion.

“Man Up” is available now through Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Books A Million, Indiebound, Penguin and iTunes!

 

To book Carlos for a speaking engagement,
please contact Megan Halpern:
megan.halpern@us.penguingroup.com
212-366-2263
  For media inquiries,
please contact Beth Parker:
beth.parker@us.penguingroup.com
212-366-2213
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Reading Group Guide for “Man Up”

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Professors, educators, critical-thinkers, change-makers:

The READING GROUP GUIDE for “Man Up” just went live (which includes an in-depth Q and A w/ me about the book) – here are some excerpts:

“This book is all about growth and transformation. I could easily have made it some sterilized, politically correct manifesto on everything I’ve gotten right in my life. The only problem with that is no one would have been able to relate to it and, therefore, it would be completely useless.”

“It’s easy to say, “Throw away the script altogether. Forget about gender, let’s just be human.” But if you’re a fourteen-year-old Puerto Rican kid in Brooklyn, who’s primary models of masculinity are his abusive uncle and Chris Brown, that’s not concrete enough for him. To tell him, “Forget about the box, just be you,” is the same as not giving him a choice. That’s why counter-narratives are so important. Before we erase gender binaries and role-playing altogether, we first need to give people concrete ways to break out of them.”

“This memoir is not about telling guys, “Hey, I’m really great. You should be me.” On the contrary, it’s me saying, “I know what it’s like, brother. I struggled with endless pressure and expectations to not be who I was for years. Here’s how I tried to make sense of it. Here’s how I found authenticity, meaning, self-worth, joy, and love in the midst of it. Take what’s useful, leave what isn’t. Now go write your own story.”"

To read the whole piece: http://www.us.penguingroup.com/static/rguides/us/man_up.html

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In the wake of Newtown – discussing masculinity & violence on “The Couch”

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To see the clip of my interview earlier this week on CBS NY’s “Live from the Couch,” click HERE

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“Man Up” as an FYE/Common Book at YOUR school

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Having spent the past 11 years touring colleges and universities (and visiting over 250 institutions), I feel an especially close connection to college students.  Each visit takes me back to my first day at college, sitting in my cramped dorm room surrounded by a sea of boxes as a fresh-faced eighteen year-old.

Since the release of my memoir “Man Up,” a number of students, professors, and administrators have asked me about using my new book as an FYE or Common Book for incoming students.  Check out this post on the Penguin on Campus Tumblr page…and feel free to pass it along to your FYE/Common Book committee.

 

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Review of “Man Up” & FINAL book tour event

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After five weeks of intense travel, tons of books sold, endless interviews, countless riveting discussions and new friends made,  the “Man Up” Book Tour is finally coming to its end.

In celebration of closing out this whirlwind run, I’d like to share this recently published review of “Man Up” by Sarah D. Lawson for the Split This Rock Poetry Festival blog – to read it, click HERE

For all my D.C. area supporters, I hope to see you all TOMORROW NIGHT as we close out this breathtaking tour:

6:30pm, Wednesday, Nov. 7th at  at Busboys and Poets (14th & V, Washington, DC)

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“Man Up” across America

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My book “Man Up: Cracking the Code of Modern Manhood” has finally been released.  


And now the fun part – I get to come to YOU for the book tour and bring this entire project to life through performance, discussion, and celebration.  All the shows are free to attend.
My final NYC book event is tomorrow night in Manhattan:
Thursday, Oct. 4th at 6pm at La Casa Azul  (143 E. 103rd Street, New York, NY 10029)


If you don’t already have “Man Up,” the book is available right now through Barnes & NobleAmazonBooks A MillionIndieboundPenguin, and iTunes

(this first week’s sales are very important…so if you plan to get it, doing it now helps me most!)

In addition to NYC, I will be visiting Providence, Boston, Philadelphia, Washington DC, Miami, Atlanta, Chicago, Naperville, San Francisco, Santa Rosa, & Seattle!

Here are the dates of my “MAN UP” BOOK TOUR:

(PROVIDENCE) Friday, Oct. 5th at 7pm at Books on the Square  (471 Angell Street, Providence, RI)

(BOSTON) Saturday, Oct. 6th at 10:45am at Innovation Summit (Harvard University, 2 Divinity Ave., Cambridge, MA 02138) 
***This event is the only one that is NOT free.  You can register for this amazing conference by clicking the “Innovation Summit” hyperlink.  If you sign up and register for my afternoon workshop, you receive a FREE copy of “Man Up.”

(MIAMI) Tuesday, Oct. 9th at 8pm at Books & Books (265 Aragon Ave, Coral Gables, FL)

(ATLANTA) Wednesday, Oct. 10th at 7pm at Georgia Center for the Book (Eagle Eye) (215 Sycamore Street, Decatur, GA)

(CHICAGO) Thursday, Oct. 11th at 7pm at Two Doors East (Anderson’s Bookshop) (111 West Jefferson Avenue, Naperville, IL 60540)

(CHICAGO) Friday, Oct. 12th at 7pm at Lake Forest Books (680 N. Western Avenue, Lake Forest, IL 60045)

(SAN FRANCISCO) Monday, Oct. 15th at 7pm at Book Passage (51 Tamal Vista Blvd, Corte Madera, CA 94925)

(SAN FRANCISCO) Tuesday, Oct. 16th at 7pm at Montgomery HS Performing Arts Center (w/ Copperfield’s Books) (1250 Hahman Drive, Santa Rosa, CA 95405)

(SEATTLE) Thursday, Oct. 18th at 7pm at Elliot Bay (1521 Tenth Avenue, Seattle, WA)

(PHILADELPHIA) Saturday, Oct. 27th at 5:30pm at Penn Bookstore (3601 Walnut Street, Philadelphia, PA)

(WASHINGTON DC) Wednesday, Nov. 7th at 6:30pm at Busboys and Poets (14th & V, Washington, DC)


Save the date in your calendar and tell a friend!

If you don’t see your city or town on this list, please be sure to request that “Man Up” be carried at your local school, library, or bookstore.  Just send an email to whoever is in charge with a link to THIS PAGE and say, “Uh, excuse me.  We NEED this book!

If you or someone you know is interested in an interview or feature about me or the book, please contact my book publicist, Beth Parker:

We’re filling in press as I go, so don’t be shy!

Once again, huge heartfelt thanks for the love and support along this journey.  And I hope to see your smile and share a handshake or a hug very soon.

Much love,
Carlos
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