Man Up: Reimagining Modern Manhood

A powerful coming-of-age memoir that reimagines masculinity for the twenty-first-century. 

In one of his most compelling spoken-word poems, Gómez recounts a confrontation he once had after accidentally bumping into another man at a nightclub. Just as they were about to fight, Gómez’s eyes inexplicably welled up with tears. Everyone at the scene jumped back, as if showing vulnerability was the most jarring thing that Gómez could possibly have done.

Like many men in our society, Gómez grew up believing that he should be ready to fight at all times, treat women as objects, and close off his emotional self. It wasn’t until he discovered acting that he began to realize the true cost of squelching one’s emotions—and how aggression dominates everything that young males are taught.

Plummeting graduation and employment rates and dire teen suicide statistics show that young men are at a crisis point. Gómez seeks to reverse these alarming trends by sharing lessons about life, love, and vulnerability. Man Up galvanizes all of us to rethink the way men interact with women, deal with violence, handle fear, and express emotion.

Gómez urges men of all ages to break society’s rules of male conformity and reconsider not just what it means to be a man, but what it means to be a good man.

“Man Up” is available now through AmazonBarnes & NobleBooks A MillionIndiebound, Penguin Random House and iTunes!


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My poem, “Pronounced,” has been nominated for the Pushcart Prize!!


Just got word that my poem “Pronounced” has been nominated for the Pushcart Prize! Heartfelt thank you to Jenifer Browne Lawrence and all of the editors at the Crab Creek Review for giving this poem a home and then choosing to honor it with this distinction. I’m floored.


Show with John Legend at Centennial High School


These kids rocked it today at Centennial High School during our AXE #SeniorOrientation show with John Legend! So proud and inspired to see them share their thoughts on self-expression and inclusive masculinity in front of their entire school. #AXEPartner #FindYourMagic (Photo by @merrittography)


Collaboration with John Legend


Thrilled to collaborate with John Legend & AXE to launch #SeniorOrientation and champion inclusive masculinity and self-expression among high school students. Next stop, Centennial High School in Columbus, OH this October. #AXEPartner #FindYourMagic

Grateful for Access Hollywood, Rolling Stone, People magazine, Teen Vogue, BET, Cosmo, ELLE, Complex, Esquire, Forbes, Latin Times, VIBE,, NBC News, Yahoo News, NY Mag, CBS News, Reuters TV, Mashable, and all the other media outlets who attended last night’s event at The Aula in New York City.

Here is the Press Release for the project:


Special citation from the City of Milwaukee


Before my show tonight, I received a special citation from the City of Milwaukee for “outstanding dedication to the Latino community.”

It was an honor to be the Keynote for an event bringing together so many powerful Latinx leaders from across this city. #gratitude


“Where are you really from?” video tops 1,000,000 views


1,000,000 views and counting…

I am so grateful to We are mitú for posting the video a few weeks back.

Epic thank you to NBC NewsNPRThe Huffington PostVIBE magazineVoto LatinoLatino Rebels, HozierGina RodriguezKevin Powell, and everyone else who has championed the poem.